Turn Anxiety Into Confidence

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Your anxiety isn’t the problem… Your goals are.

If you are anything like I was, you likely get to the end of the year and wonder, “What happened?”

Where did the year go, and what was I doing?

You look at the list of goals you wrote out or put into your notes app, and first, you probably say, “What was I thinking setting 15 goals for myself?”

And then you look through the list and see which ones you can actually check off. You probably see 1–2 if you're lucky, or 5–6 that you partially completed but never came back to.

Now you're either irritated, down on yourself, thinking you wasted yet another year, or you're stressed out, full of anxiety, and wondering how you're going to complete the list of 15 goals you set for yourself in the next 30 days.

Spoiler alert, you're likely not, at least not without losing a ton of sleep and possibly having a stroke, which no one wants.

Because all you're doing at that point is trying to check off a box that no one besides you cares about in the first place, so let's do something different for the remainder of this year and all the other years ahead of us.

The first thing I want you to do is to throw away or delete the goal list you have. Yes, that is correct. I said throw it away or delete it, because this is an unnecessary source of your anxiety.

I have had more growth emotionally, developmentally, and in my business in 2025 than in the past 5 years combined, and this was the first year I didn't set goals for myself.

I know this can be very scary, but I am not telling you not to have a plan; I am telling you that setting goals will limit you and cap your potential.

A better option would be to make a decision.

Decide to partner with God and let him show you what he would have you do by releasing control and giving up the goal list, which signifies that you want to do everything in your power rather than God's.

So, what you are going to do this year is get really clear on how you want to feel, and this is not a general exercise of saying you want to be happy. If you want to feel successful, describe what success feels like to you.

When you're successful and running a multimillion-dollar business, will you feel confident? Will your self-trust and self-esteem be through the roof?

If you are currently depressed or highly anxious, do you just want to feel peace, acceptance, like what you are doing matters, and like you existing is good enough?

Decisions are so much more powerful than goals.

You get to decide how you show up each day, what you wear, how you style your hair, what you put into your body, how you move your body, what you do with your day, and how you let God move in your life. Goals create rigidity and are a pass-fail; you complete them, or you don’t. When in reality, God could have done much more in store for you.

The root word of decision is decide, which means to cut yourself off from something. You can cut yourself off from feelings of shame, embarrassment, and unworthiness because you either created those feelings or you are listening to someone else who is projecting those feelings onto you.

Decide who you want to be and, more importantly, how you want to feel, and stop being available for everything else that is no longer serving you.