Christianity isn't for the Weak

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Emotional maturity and spiritual maturity go hand in hand.

You cannot have spiritual maturity without emotional maturity.

This was a topic my discipleship leader and I were discussing recently, because it is the foundation on which our church operates.

I didn't see the connection early on in my walk with God. I ignorantly thought that going to church was all I needed to develop spiritually with the Lord.

But Christianity is about partnership and fellowship with God.

It’s about developing a personal, intimate relationship with Him so that He can grow you, prune you, mold you, challenge you, and rebuke you when needed.

This process is not easy, and sometimes it doesn't seem worth it, especially when it doesn't feel good. But the peace and blessings on the other side of developing a relationship with Christ always seem to be worth it to me, at least.

As you gain spiritual maturity and grow in your relationship with Christ, you also gain emotional maturity, meaning you are less sensitive to people's opinions and judgments. The things that people do and say don’t affect you like they used to. And you find a new confidence from within that you never even knew existed.

This confidence and the other fruits of the spirit that you start to develop along the way don’t come from you; they come from the spirit that God has placed inside you.

Your spirit grows stronger, your confidence increases, and you finally see that you were made for so much more.

Why?

Because you are becoming more aligned with Christ.

Now, as I mentioned earlier, this is not always a beautiful process.

God sends you challenges to expose your weaknesses.

He sends you obstacles to see how you react in difficult circumstances.

And he sends you gentle rebukes to see how you will respond to his correction and what adjustments you will make.

Nothing grows without resistance.

Whether you have a seed that has to push through the soil.

Or if you're on a fitness journey to build more muscle, you have to push past pain and resistance to see actual growth.

Many people believe that being a Christian is easy, right?

All you have to do is read your Bible, pray, ask for forgiveness, and love others as Jesus loved them.

Until someone hurts you or betrays you.

Until the whole day passes and you forget, or get too busy with work to read your Bible and pray.

Until you feel like a sin you committed is too much for Jesus to forgive because others have misguided your spiritual journey.

What happens then?

How do we remove the legalism that has been placed on Christian’s that Jesus already sacrificed himself to set us free from?

1. We have to accept that our challenges and struggles are part of the growing process.

No one likes going through struggles, but scripture says:

"My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing." (James 1:2–4)

When you have trials, your patience develops along with so many other fruits of the Spirit, making you perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

Rejoice in this because the person you become on the other side of that challenge is so much greater.

2. Realize that becoming spiritually mature takes time

I don’t think we can ever “truly arrive” on our spiritual maturity journey with Christ, because he will always have something new to teach us or some area to prune within us.

However, you can always grow and get stronger over time. Just like you will see positive physical changes in your body when you exercise and eat healthy food, the same thing can happen to your spirit when you are willing to develop a deep, meaningful relationship with God and are willing to be transformed by Him.

This takes time because God is not in a rush like we are, and he has so much to show us, but if you go too fast on your walk with God, you are going to miss something important.

3. You have to be in community.

Not being in community with just anyone will increase your spiritual maturity. You have to be in community with others who are spiritually aligned and spiritually mature.

If you think that operating in a vacuum, just you and Jesus, will be enough for your transformation, I will tell you that it isn’t possible, because God wants you to be in community, to help those in need, and to fellowship as he did.

Jesus will likely use others to assist in your walk with him. Isolation doesn’t make you stronger; it makes you more susceptible to attacks from the enemy.

So, what have you been asking God for to help you with that you aren’t receiving? And ask yourself if you are even spiritually strong enough to receive them when they come.